Games May 19, 2026 11 min read

200+ This or That Questions for Couples (Funny to Deep)

This or that questions are deceptively simple. Two options, pick one, explain yourself. But somehow, they always end up revealing something you didn't expect — like that your partner of three years has strong feelings about whether a hot dog is a sandwich, or that they'd genuinely choose to live in the mountains over the beach and you never knew that about them.

That's the magic. The format is low-stakes enough to feel like a game, but the answers open doors to real conversation.

We've put together over 200 this or that questions for couples — organized by category so you can pick the vibe that fits your night. Light and funny. Romantic. Lifestyle. Travel. And yes, some that go deeper than you'd expect for a two-option question.

Why This or That Questions Work So Well for Couples

Most "conversation starter" lists give you open-ended questions that can feel like a job interview. What's your biggest fear? What does your ideal life look like? Heavy. Awkward. Hard to know where to start.

This or that questions solve that. They give you a constraint — two choices — which paradoxically makes it easier to open up. You pick the option, then naturally explain why, and suddenly you're in a real conversation without the pressure of having started one.

They also surface genuine differences in a low-conflict way. If you discover you have opposite answers on something big — like how you'd spend an inheritance, or what you imagine retirement looking like — you find out in a playful context, not a tense one.

Research on relationship quality consistently points to what the Gottman Institute calls "Love Maps" — how well you actually know your partner's inner world. This or that questions are a surprisingly efficient way to update yours, even years into a relationship.

Funny This or That Questions for Couples

Start here if you want to laugh. These are the warm-up round — no wrong answers, no deep revelations required.

Romantic This or That Questions for Couples

These are good for a date night, an anniversary, or any time you want to feel a bit closer. Some of them are sweet. Some will spark a longer conversation than you expected.

Play This or That Together — Blindside Style

Answer questions separately, then reveal your answers at the same time. No peeking, no influencing. Blindside makes it easy to play from your phones — no app required.

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Lifestyle This or That Questions for Couples

These are the ones that matter for actually building a life together. Fun to compare when you're dating. Genuinely important when you're deciding how to live.

Home and Money

Work and Ambition

Everyday Life

Travel This or That Questions for Couples

Travel reveals a lot. How someone packs, what they want to do when they get there, how they handle a delayed flight — it's all relationship data.

Deep This or That Questions for Couples

Here's where it gets interesting. These aren't trick questions — there's no right answer. But they'll tell you a lot about how your partner sees the world, what they value, and how they think about your future together.

Some of these work really well in building better communication habits because they force you to articulate a position on things you might have never put into words before.

Pop Culture and Preferences This or That

A palate cleanser after all those existential questions.

Food This or That Questions for Couples

Food incompatibility is underrated as a relationship topic. Sort this out early.

How to Play This or That as a Couple Game

Reading a list is fine. Actually playing it is better. Here are a few formats that work well:

The Simultaneous Reveal

Both partners answer silently, then reveal at the same time. No influencing each other. This is exactly how blindside works — you each submit your answer before seeing your partner's, then you both see the results together. It makes every answer feel like a little reveal, which is surprisingly fun even for questions you think you already know the answer to.

The Deeper Dive Rule

For every answer where you picked different options, you have to explain your reasoning in at least two sentences. Not to defend yourself — just to share your thinking. This is where the real conversation happens.

The Drinking Game Version

One drink if your answers match (celebrate), one drink if they don't (commiserate). Works best with the lighter categories. If you want to combine this with more couples game formats, there's a whole list of ideas in our couples drinking games guide.

The Anniversary Edition

Pick 20 of the deeper questions, answer them, and save the results. Answer them again on your next anniversary and see what's changed. It becomes a kind of relationship record — a snapshot of how you were thinking at a particular moment. Pairs beautifully with some of the anniversary ideas we love for couples who want something more memorable than dinner.

Try It on blindside Tonight

Pick a category, answer simultaneously, and see where your answers land. It's free, it works on any phone, and it consistently leads to better conversations than you planned on having.

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A Few Tips for Getting the Most Out of These Questions

Don't skip the "why." The answer itself is almost never the interesting part. It's the reason behind it. Get in the habit of following every answer with a short explanation.

Don't use answers as ammunition. If your partner picks "be remembered for your work" over "be remembered for your relationships," that's not an indictment of your relationship. It's a window into how they think. Treat it as information, not evidence.

Mix the light and the heavy. Starting with funny questions before moving to the deeper ones makes the whole thing feel playful rather than like a relationship audit.

Play regularly, not just in crisis. Couples who keep learning about each other — not just during rough patches, but consistently — tend to do better. This is one of the main findings behind the Gottman Method, and honestly it makes sense. You can't coast on knowledge from five years ago. People change.

Frequently Asked Questions

What are good this or that questions for couples?

The best this or that questions for couples span a range of tones — some lighthearted (beach or mountains, coffee or tea) and some more meaningful (be truly known by one person or widely liked by many, prioritize happiness or meaning). The key is to follow up any answer with a brief explanation, which is where the actual conversation starts.

How do you play this or that with your partner?

The simplest way is to take turns asking each other questions and answering simultaneously — both say your answer at the same time so neither person is influenced by the other's response. You can also use an app like blindside, which handles the simultaneous reveal automatically. Add a rule that every mismatched answer needs a short explanation to deepen the conversation.

Can this or that questions help couples communicate better?

Yes, genuinely. The binary format makes it easy to start sharing opinions without the pressure of an open-ended question. Over time, comparing answers across categories like lifestyle, values, and the future builds a richer picture of how both partners see the world — which is foundational to good communication and emotional intimacy.

How many this or that questions should you do in one sitting?

Somewhere between 15 and 30 tends to be the sweet spot for a single session. Fewer than that and you're just getting warmed up. More than 30 and it starts to feel like a survey. If you're mixing funny questions with deeper ones, front-load the light stuff and let the conversation naturally slow down as you hit the heavier questions.

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